Surrenders are universal. Every person, at some point in life, surrenders to one thing or another. And they all share one defining quality: they leave an emotional imprint. That is how we know we have truly experienced a surrender — because we are marked by it for life.
The Many Forms of Surrender
We have all had to surrender to a relationship with someone who did not care for us the way we cared for them. We call this our first heartbreak. But life teaches us quickly that more than just romantic relationships can break our hearts.
There is the heartbreak of losing a job we loved. The heartbreak of losing a family member. These are moments that change our lives forever and can create violent emotional twists that discolor our personalities and alter our lives for the worse. There is no way to bypass pain or grief from broken relationships or heartfelt disappointments — but there are good ways and bad ways to handle these life-changing moments.
Recognizing a Soul-Changing Experience
As we begin to grow, part of the maturing process is accepting that life and relationships are constantly changing — that life is fluid and never stagnant. During these pivotal moments, we can say to ourselves: I am having a soul-changing experience.
By recognizing that we are having a soul-changing experience, we allow ourselves a peaceful surrender to what is. We allow it to unfold sequentially, learning from it what our part was in creating it. To truly capitalize on a surrender — which is a byproduct of realization that comes from the pain — we do not use that painful energy to beat ourselves up. We steer it toward the cause. The only time we can ever change from a painful experience is to find the cause within us that created it, surrender to that cause, and void it by taking the opposite action.
There is no way to bypass pain or grief because of broken relationships or heartfelt disappointments, but there are good ways and bad ways to handle these life-changing moments.
— K.C. Pierson
The Wrong Way: Running From It
The wrong way — and the path many of us default to — is to run. To not deal with it. To look the other way and refuse to recognize the trauma unfolding in our lives. This is how many of us end up living in a state of penalty, where the only change we make comes after a massive amount of consequence has been administered to our lives.
If your personal relationships feel like a constant repeat performance of the same characters, it is because you have not yet surrendered to the change you need to make. If we blame others for our troubles, we cannot surrender to the truth — that we are the creator of all our own troubles. We must surrender to that which is within us that keeps recreating the life we do not want.
Keeping the Surrender Alive
To capitalize on your surrenders, you must take them forward. You must never compromise with your ego. Fear is powerful because of the emotions that come with it — and if you keep feeding fearful thoughts, they will grow stronger until they have power over you. This is when we enter the realm of obsession. Obsession means no will to resist its demands. Dysfunctional relationships become obsessions. We can obsess on the pain of relationships from our childhood as adults, recreating those traumas over and over.
In recognizing the dysfunctional cause of these patterns — which usually does trace back to our childhood — we must expose that injury today by acquiring tools that teach us to self-search.
Surrender as Rebirth
Surrender is the energy that motivates us to embrace the tools necessary to expose what needs to be changed — to heal the injury that has been building. It elevates us to a new consciousness, guided by both spiritual and scientific principles.
Spiritual principles guide us to a power greater than any human power — one that is omnipresent, omniscient, and omnipotent. When we learn to run every thought, every emotion, and every action by this power, something new enters our lives: sanity. Soundness of mind, emotion, and action, moment by moment, as we align ourselves with this power.
Once we know the difference between a healthy life and an unhealthy one, all we need is the power to make the right choice. It is in surrendering that we are reborn into the universal power from which we all come.
Much love,
K.C.