Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Taking your comfort…
Look for when you seek to act in defect believing that there is comfort in it or pleasure in it. “What we must recognize is that we exult in some of our defects. We really love them.”* That’s the riddle of our existence: We really don’t love them, we’ve convinced ourselves we love them. What we must recognize is the discomfort in acting in them… The reverse side of what we believe is comfort.
See your comfort through…. In other words, if you act in way you should not act thinking that there’s pleasure or comfort, ask God to show you the reverse side of the coin: the discomfort. For instance, thinking that if you eat the whole chocolate cake then you will feel better… But how can a cake create or effect your feelings? It is only what the cake represents that creates feelings… Eating the whole cake, in fact, creates another kind of hole: the hole of self-loathing where we are disgusted with ourselves for the action we just took.
This is the discomfort that comes with false comforts driven by our flaws, which represent our fears. So see the defect all the way through to the discomfort and then make a choice about the next action. This is the difference between the adult and the child… The adult asks God to show them the discomfort before they take an action… The child only sees the pleasure and blinds itself to the liabilities.
Exult in the fun of getting to know yourself!
Much love,
K.C.
* – The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions, Alcoholics Anonymous
