TLC Application 07|23|2014 “Hole In The Doughnut”

There is a feeling that most of us know but few of us can name: the sense that you are being left out, overlooked, forgotten, or pushed to the margins of a situation that matters to you. It might arise in a relationship where all the attention seems to flow toward someone else. It might show up at work when your contribution goes unacknowledged. Whatever the trigger, the feeling is the same — and the behaviors it produces can be devastating if left unchecked. Understanding this pattern is one of the most important steps you can take toward real, lasting change.

What Is the Hole in the Doughnut?

The “hole in the doughnut” describes the feeling we encounter when we sense we are being pushed out — cut out, forgotten, or about to become a nonentity in some area of life. The chief application here is that when we are trying to embrace a new way of life and manifest a positive psychic change, there must be a period of time where we would have to completely disengage from Self Will. The best parable description for this concept would be: “It is in dying that we are reborn.”

When we feel that we are going to be the hole in the doughnut — that we are going to be forgotten, cut out, or become a nonentity in life, a relationship, or some circumstance — that is the problem we must learn to treat.

How the Feeling Drives Destructive Behavior

The problem with this drive is that in order to have any temporary satisfaction, we must have an expression of Self in every situation — which, of course, drives the people around us away. We become an obstacle in nearly every situation. In a personal relationship where the focus has been primarily on the other person, the feeling of becoming a nonentity represents itself, and we begin to seek expression: “What about me? Where do I come in?” These thoughts, coupled with the feelings they create, bolster egotism and begin to seek expression in a negative way.

This is when the juggernaut of Self Will makes us very difficult people to be around. Self Will combines with ego and only wants to speak in a negative way to gain attention. This same pattern plays out at work — we do not get the promotion we expected, and instead of seeking understanding, we begin to make critical mistakes: cold shoulders, defiance, smart remarks, or an outright resignation. In almost every case, we destroy something we actually wanted — and then live in regret and remorse for how we thought and acted.

Imagine how many times in our life we have acted in the juggernaut of Self Will, only to destroy something once again and live in total regret and remorse for the way we thought and acted.

The Treatment: Removing Self for a Period of Time

Most of us have been riddled with this dysfunction all of our lives, so it has become instinctual to behave this way. Therefore, the only treatment would have to be a complete removal of Self for a period of time. What this means in the bigger picture is that we go with the flow no matter what. We do not argue with anybody or anything. We walk throughout the day and go where everyone else wants to go, flow where everyone else wants to flow — over and over again, by this process, developing an awareness of how to disengage from Self and what that feels like.

The removal of Self is not going to happen just because you want it to. It takes application of the principle over and over again until it becomes automatic. This means the spiritual principle of removing the bondage of Self goes from your head to your heart and becomes a part of who you are.

Remember: the removal of Self is not going to happen just because you want it to. It takes application of the principle over and over again until it becomes automatic.

Information Becomes Knowledge Through Application

You are a new character being built by spiritual principles in a specific order. The formula to convert information into knowledge is to apply a principle, think about it over and over again, and continue until you find yourself doing it without having to think about it anymore. That is mastery of change.

The most critical element in this formula is the cosmic Universal Power that must be invited into each and every application. When you find yourself having thoughts of “What about me, where is mine, how much longer do I have to wait, I always get the short end of the stick” — remember your commitment to your soul’s desire for a true psychic change: to be happily and usefully whole and free from the bondage of Self. Then bring in the simple principle: go with the flow and stop resisting everybody and everything, until you find yourself doing it without having to think about it.

The key that unlocks this door is willingness. Willingness is something done without reluctance. When you find yourself applying the principle of going with the flow — without having to think about it — that is when you know you have taken information and transformed it into a part of the knowledge of your new character.