TLC Application 06|14|2011 “Self-Searching & The Instincts” Pt. 2

In Part 1 we explored how the three primary instincts — security, sex, and society — operate below the level of consciousness and trigger the four signs of emotional insecurity: worry, anger, self-pity, and depression. In this second part, we go deeper into what those emotional states are really communicating, and how the practice of self-searching transforms us from people driven by demands into people living in peaceful co-creation.

When Emotional Pain Becomes a Demand

As we reviewed in Part 1, the instincts drive us, and once an instinct drives us it produces a concern, or fear. And there are only two kinds of fears: the fear that we will not get what we want, or the fear that we will lose what we have. When we are in fear, we act in defects because we have now created a Demand — a false dependency.

When we are overly-dependent on a relationship, or overly-dependent on what people think of us, or overly-dependent on financial income to provide security for our lives, then what we have done is entered the realm of Demand. And the Demand is proven by too much excessive worry, anger, self-pity, or sadness.

Staying in negative emotional states is literally saying to the universe: “Fix my problem or I am going to stay in bad behaviors and bad feelings.” That position will not produce anything more than more bad feelings, behaviors, and energy.

It is a very insightful yet tricky process to learn to recognize how we place demands on our Creator, or God, or the universe by the characteristics of worry, anger, self-pity and depression. When we enter into that mode it does not feel like we are demanding from the world to “fix it.” But once we realize this we can surrender to the way that we operate and acknowledge that we have created a Demand.

Moving From Demand to Request

Doing this self-searching allows us to reaffirm the truth: that our ultimate dependency is always on our Creator for everything — for where we should be and where we should not be, for what does go away or what is meant to stay, for what is supposed to come into our lives or not come in. Our ultimate trust must be on our Creator to have a fulfilling life.

To find our destiny there has to be that element of trust. There has to be a manner in which we can back that trust by the application of being able to recognize when we have entered into a Demand, and apologize for that state. It is a bad attitude that is not going to do anybody any good and will create results contrary to what we want.

When we enter into a state of Request then it is just a petition. We can make a request and society recognizes that and gives right back to us what we ourselves give. Like in a social setting, if we experience anxiety, our Society instinct is driving us. So we be happy, smile at people, be kind and considerate. We think about what other people might need and this will change us and make us more comfortable.

Self-Searching as Daily Co-Creation

This is the self-searching that helps us to identify which instinct is driving us at any time. Where we can find an application for social anxiety and be nicer to people to neutralize it. In finances, what action can we take toward a solution? What can we give to our mates and friends to create a happier relationship and better interaction?

We need to stop living in a world where we are worried about what we can get and instead find out what we can give.

This puts us in the proper state to know what our Creator wants us to be, which is a co-creator. In every moment, to the best of our ability, it is always important to ask: “How can I co-create with God?” Part of the co-creation is self-searching so that we can make sure that God can get inside our hearts and souls to rearrange any concerns or troubles that we have. By the self-searching process we are able to open the door that had always been shut — the door to our subconscious, the door to our real drives in life. Now we can open that door and allow our Creator to come in and give us insight into what actions we can take to create a resolve or solution.

The Real Art of Being Happy

Self-searching is a very important process. Have fun with it! It is something we should be doing all day long: how are we feeling, how are we doing right now? Are we managing our incomes, are we living on a good budget, and are we adhering to it without griping and moping?

It is a great principle to live by that we need to stop trying to change the world or change the conditions of the world, and learn that the real solution — the real art to being happy in life — is to change ourselves to meet the conditions of the world as they are. Whether it be a personal relationship, finances or our status in society, how can we change ourselves right now, by our attitudes, thoughts, feelings and actions, to have the harmony that we want in our lives?

If we keep waiting for the world to change we are going to wait for the rest of our lives. But if we want to change the world, we change the way that we look at it. When we change the way we look at the world, the world changes right before our eyes.

Use these tools to self-search: learn about the instincts driving you and creating feelings. If those feelings are negative, they will produce negative actions. But if the instincts are normalized and neutralized the way our Creator would want them, they produce feelings of harmony, passion, and excitement. When we have those feelings, our actions are based in humility and integrity — and we give rather than take. This is the true art of life and truly being happy.