Tag: Triggers

• June 29, 2010

  Fault-Finding Is a Projection

  Have you noticed how easy it is to become irritated by other people’s failures to follow rules that you follow? Someone runs a stop sign. Someone parks in a handicapped…

• May 29, 2010

  The Attraction to Emotional Trauma

  What is your devastating weakness? Not in the abstract, not philosophically — what is yours, specifically, in the way your inner life actually works? Most people have never answered that…

• March 30, 2010

  How Trauma Leaks Into Everything

  There is a particular kind of mental spiral that most people have experienced but few can name clearly. It begins with something small — a car that cuts you off…

• February 14, 2010

  Instinctual Triggers and the Time-Out Signal

  Every relationship has sensitive areas — places where even a gentle conversation can hit an instinctual chord and trigger a reactive response neither person planned for. Learning to navigate those…

• January 12, 2010

  When the World Gets Too Small

  When life gets overwhelming — when stress is high and problems feel unresolvable and the world is pressing in from every direction — the antidote is almost always the same:…