Tag: Forgiveness

• June 6, 2010

  The Blame Audit

  At any moment, you have two choices about how to interpret what is happening in your life. You can look for who or what is responsible for why things are…

• May 29, 2010

  The Attraction to Emotional Trauma

  What is your devastating weakness? Not in the abstract, not philosophically — what is yours, specifically, in the way your inner life actually works? Most people have never answered that…

• May 24, 2010

  This Is for My Life, Not My Conditions

  Making amends is one of the most misunderstood actions in spiritual growth. Most people either avoid it entirely — because accountability feels like exposure and vulnerability — or they perform…

• February 11, 2010

  The Practice: Calm, Thoughtful Reflection on Relationships

  The paradox at the heart of spiritual growth is this: the more honestly you look at your weaknesses — your patterns in relationships, your recurring blind spots, your default behaviors…

• February 4, 2010

  Happiness Is Not Their Obligation

  One of the most common sources of unhappiness in relationships is a misplaced expectation: the belief that your partner is responsible for your happiness. We rarely say this out loud,…