Tag: Character

• June 23, 2011

  Why Talking About Dysfunction Creates Connection

  Nothing connects two people faster than honesty about our own dysfunction. When you can look someone in the eye and describe clearly what you are like when you are at…

• June 20, 2011

  Learning to Recognize Your Personal Warning Signs

  There is a point in the slide toward depression where reaching out for help feels impossible. Not difficult. Impossible. The very act of picking up the phone and calling someone…

• June 14, 2011

  When Emotional Pain Becomes a Demand

  In Part 1 we explored how the three primary instincts — security, sex, and society — operate below the level of consciousness and trigger the four signs of emotional insecurity:…

• June 6, 2011

  The Process of Inversion

  To change is to create art. Every genuine, lasting transformation works exactly the way learning a musical instrument works — the movements that feel foreign and effortful at first become,…

• June 5, 2011

  The Real Cause of the Mid-Life Crisis

  For the first portion of most people’s lives, time feels like a friend — there is plenty of it ahead, the future is open, and the imagination runs forward with…