Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Being OK with “The Middle Ground”
Learning to be OK with the middle ground can be awkward for most of us. What happens is we think something is wrong if things are too quiet in our lives… Imagine that… But it’s true, if you look at what our lives have been and can be… Either we are very busy with too much to do or we are in a state of depression where we can’t get anything done… What happens is we get real busy or something: A family member or a significant relationship is requiring extra energy, work is demanding, the car needs to get fixed, the bills have to get paid, this is calling or that has been put off too long and things stack up… Inside we are desiring a break. We just want things to quiet down, and then we start expressing it verbally to the people we’re around, “I need a break I wish I could get 5 minutes to myself. Man, I need a vacation. Boy, I would love to just sit around one day and do nothing all day long.”
So, we ask the universe to give us some quiet over and over again in so many ways. The strongest way, of course, is the one that needs no expression and that is through desire. Desire in manifestation can change the world with it’s power. It is the most powerful tool a human being has, desire. So the quiet comes and we embrace the fact that things are slowing down. We catch that movie we have been missing, we’re reading and taking some time to our selves; then, BamBam… We don’t know what happened. We are in a panic and we think things are going to fall apart. We start thinking again about all the things that need to be done that are not happening… And we forget we asked for the quiet and here it is and we don’t know what to do with it…
What we do is enjoy and remember there is always going to be things that need to get done that we fall behind on… Check inside. Have you been asking for the quiet, and if you have then reaffirm your request and be grateful for the quiet for you have received, which is what you asked for. If you have not asked for it but it is there, then ask and know the truth of: “Can I be a happy person when life is moving slowly or I am in the middle ground?” For me, I learned the middle ground was important and that these were the times when God was doing for me what I could not do for myself. I also realized that I had lived a pretty chaotic life and the middle ground was not a place that I was familiar with! What I was familiar with was chaos or absolutely nothing, just shut down. This is part of what made me an erratic person: there was no middle ground experience in my life.
Now the middle ground is great and allows me to do the things I want to do but think I am too busy for or don’t make time for… Coupled with the fact that the middle ground comes because I have asked for it and I need to remember that once again God has given me exactly what I was looking for… When you are in the middle ground do not let your fears of “I am not doing enough” take you away from the deep need we all have for Balance…
The middle ground is what balances the highs and the lows…
Much love,
K.C.
Thank you. You articulated something for me that I had been wrestling with. I thought perhaps when i get agitated after having asked for and gotten unbroken periods of time – and being self employed it happens alot, that it might be because I have “deep issues” still that I need to face. So I would try to focus on these feelings to see if I could drag something up – with no results except going over old turf again.
And then I start living in the future – I used to drink during those time periods so no problem filling the time then!
And I have lots of hobbies and non work related activities that I enoy, Telling me it is something I just am not used to is very helpful. I have discovered that when I keep a bit of discipline during these times- make sure I do morning prayer, meditation, readings- and spend more time at them- it is better and I can just enjoy and treasure the moments. Like many of us- I want everything to happen right away. Acheiving balance takes time.
You have no idea how much I needed to read this. Now, I need to apply it. It is exactly where I am in my work-life today. For two weeks I have been climbing the walls because I don’t have enough to do. I actually started crying in frustration and fear last week and nearly picked up the phone to call KC, but the time distance made me think twice. Anyway, thanks, and it’s time to re-read and begin applying. xoxox